You can always start over

We all fail in life, and we are given second chances to get things right more often than we realize.

Failure is inevitable

There are several quotes I can write here about failure, but I choose to share one of my own (it might be someone else’s but I can’t remember who’s and I couldn’t find it on the Internet): If you haven’t failed, you haven’t tried.

Life is best lived by taking risks, challenges and by trying new things. 

Since we were babies, we took on challenges: Crawling, drinking out of a cup instead of a bottle, learning how to walk, etc.  I can guarantee that for every challenge we took on in our early months and years, we failed multiple times before we found success and with each failure, we were given additional chances to succeed.

Unfortunately, somewhere along our journey through life we have become cynical.   Leading us to believe that when we fail -even once, it is all over because there are no second chances in life to get it right.

Debunking the myth we only have one shot at success.

It has been my experience that life gives us a multitude of opportunities to try again.  I believe the problem is that most people (and in my past I could include myself), after a failure, are so discouraged they do not see the opportunities that are in front of them to try again.

The hidden chances of starting over in life.

Most us of consider every New Year as a chance to start over by setting resolutions to do things better in the new year.  Sadly, according to U.S. News & World Report, the failure rate for New Year’s resolutions is said to be about 80 percent, and most lose their resolve by mid-February.

If you have failed at your resolution and either have given up or on the verge of giving up, check out these opportunities throughout the rest of the year to “start over”.

  1. Your birthday – Each year your birthday celebrates another successful year you have lived on planet earth while the planet traveled around the sun.  It also marks the beginning of a new year of your life.
  2. An anniversary – Why not use an anniversary of your engagement, wedding, graduation – or anything else to start over.
  3. A Second New Year – Look for a second new year on the calendar to start over.  For example, you could use either Rosh Hashana or the Chinese New Year.
  4. A religious holiday – there is Ash Wednesday, Easter, Christmas, Yon Kippur and the first day of Chanukkiah – just to name a few to choose from.
  5. A special holiday – Martin Luther King Day, Valentine’s Day,Mother’s or Father’s Day, Memorial Day orThanksgiving are all good dates to start over.

You do not need to wait for any of the above days to come around on the calendar.  You can make today the day you start over and try again.  Just be sure that your resolve is stronger than before.  If you fail – don’t give up!  You may need to start over several or even multiple times, but don’t ever give up because “You never fail until you stop trying.” – Albert Einstein

Now go out into the world and take risks!  When you fail remember this quote by Og Mandino: “Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”