Whenever we miss out on an opportunity or come up short on reaching a goal, it is often human nature to make an excuse for the failure. When we turn those excuses into causes, we can start making changes and seeing more success in our lives.
Finding excuses for our failures
When I was young, I used the excuse of being painfully shy to explain why I didn’t make a lot of friends or felt comfortable talking to strangers.
When I was a teenager, I used the excuses of my fear of rejection and being insecure about myself as reasons why I didn’t have a girlfriend.
What is an excuse?
According to the dictionary, an excuse is simply an attempt to lessen the blame attaching to (a fault or offense); seek to defend or justify.
According to my dictionary, when you make an excuse, you are simply saying “it is not my fault and there is nothing I can do about it” and in most cases, that is the furthest from the truth.
Excuses give you an alibi or a cop-out. Excuses are crutches in life and serve no good for anyone. Excuses can rob you of your self-confidence and give powers to others or obstacles that neither deserve the power or that you can overcome!
If you look at the same perceived reason why you failed as a cause, you are throwing away the alibi, the cop-out and the crutches. You are taking back the power and you can begin to overcome that obstacle or person.
What is a cause?
According to the dictionary, a cause is a person or thing that gives rise to an action, phenomenon, or condition.
According to my dictionary, a cause that is holding you back is often something you can control and overcome before you achieve the success you desire.
This is the reason why when I identify what went wrong that causes my efforts to succeed end in failure, I do not see them as excuse, but I see them as causes that can be fixed.
If your car won’t start and you determine that you are out of gas, if you look at being out of gas as an excuse, then you will not be able to resolve the problem. However, if you look at the empty gas tank as the cause of the car’s inability to start, then you can correct that cause by putting gas into the vehicle.
A cause can be changed.
When I stopped looking at the reasons for my failures as excuses and started to look at the reason as causes, my life started to change.
When I stopped using my shyness as an excuse and started to view it as a cause to why I didn’t make friends or talk to strangers, I was able to do something about my shyness.
When I stopped using my fear as an excuse and started to view it as a cause, I began to face my fears and that changed my life for the better.
When I stopped using my insecurities about myself as an excuse and started to see them as a cause, I was able to address the real problem of low self-esteem, low self-confidence and low self-respect. When I did that, I began to see my self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect grow, followed by more success in my life.
Stop looking for people to blame and stop making excuses for your failures in life. Start looking for a cause and then find a solution. When you do this you may start seeing more success in your life!