We all have done it. When we have been faced with difficult times or a large problem, we spend all our time blaming someone to justify why we will fail instead of succeeding.
I have even been guilty of blaming others for my lot in life. Let me tell you that when you start playing the blame game it becomes easy to get addicted to playing the game.
One of the easiest things for people to do when they fail at something, make a mistake or discover something is standing between them and their goals is to find something or someone to blame.
In the short term it may seem like a good idea.
Blaming something or someone for a shortcoming in life can give us the illusion that we are perfect. It can be a false sense that although currently things went wrong, it wasn’t our fault and next time, if we can avoid what we are blaming for our shortcomings now, we will succeed.
Let it be known that the blame game is, at best, a short-term solution – or as I like to say, “you are just kicking the problem down the road that you will have to face later.”
What you should be doing instead of finding blame is what I talk about in my free eBook “The 10 Steps to #DefineYourslf”, take ownership of your life.
Maybe it was your fault that you were late to work and not the morons in the cars on the road. Maybe it was your fault that you forgot to pay your cell phone bill instead of the cellular company randomly targeting you with a late fee. And maybe your marriage ended in divorce not because your spouse lost interest in you, but because you had an affair – and don’t try to blame it on your spouse – you made that decision.
Again maybe it really wasn’t your fault. Maybe you were late because of slow drivers on the road. Maybe the cellular company did make a mistake. Maybe your marriage ended years before you had your affair (if that is the case, it does not justify you having an affair.)
See how easy it is to blame something or someone else for the shortcomings in your life? Some people play the blame game so well that they can find someone to blame when there is no one to blame.
Take me for example. I am legally blind. My vision is 20/200 in my left eye and 20/300 in my right eye. I have never been able to read out of my right eye; I do not see in 3-D and don’t have any dept perception. My vision problems are a result of the rubella syndrome, a birth defect.
If I was a veteran of the blame-game I could blame my mother for my visual disabilities, or the student we believe came to school sick where my mom was a teacher while she was pregnant with me, or I could even blame the mother who allowed her child to come to school sick.
For the record I have NEVER, not even for a split second, blamed my mother and only for a split second I blamed the student or his mother.
There are three reasons why did I not assign blame for my visual limitations.
First, I have always believed that my God had a reason for everyone of my birth defects and disabilities in my life.
Second, I never became a veteran of playing the blame game.
Third, and most importantly, I have learned that playing the blame game has NEVER solved any problem. It has never helped a single person I know overcome a challenge, obstacle, adversity, limitation or setback. I have found that the only thing the blame game is good for is setting the table for a pity party – and no one likes to attend someone’s pity party.
If you want to define yourself despite any problem, you must stop playing the blame game. I know you can do it.
I do not know anyone who became a success by blaming others for any problem– except for maybe politicians or political analysts.