There is a term out there called WIIFM,. It is an acronym for What’s In It For me. Most people use it when they boss says “I need you to work late tonight” and the employee asks “What’s in it for me?” His or her boss says, “You get time and a half or double time” The employee responds with “What else is in it for me?” In this example, both times the employee used WIIFM he or she got it all wrong.
When (not if) bad things happen in our lives, we often see only the bad, the loss, the devastation. We need to look past the sadness to see the positive side to everything that happens in our lives.
In my own personal experience, prolonged verbal abuse can damage the victim’s self-worth and self-esteem. It is also my opinion that it can cause problems for the victims in interpersonal relationships with others, and if not addressed, verbal abuse can have a long-lasting (possibly permanent) negative impact on the victim’s life.
Forgiving my verbal abuser gave me a peace that was well overdue in my life.
The story of how my cat Junior who is in some ways a comfort cat as I am disabled and spend an unacceptable amount of time alone at home, got out and how it was traumatic for me.