There are much better ways to motivate others to accomplish goals, complete work or to do you a favor, than using guilt trips.
Why guilt trips only work for the short term.
A guilt trip is when a person makes someone feel guilty, especially to induce them to do something, usually to benefit the person who is laying down the guilt trip.
On the surface this sounds like a good way to motivate others, however there are risks to this method of motivating others.
The danger for anyone who uses guilt trips is permanent damage to relationships with others. – No one likes to feel as if they have been used or been manipulated. When someone feels that has been the case, it will first cause bitterness and if it continues it can lead the distrust, avoidance, resentment and eventually a permeant riff in a relationship.
If you are the victim of either avoidance or a rift in friendships caused by laying guilt trips on others, your reputation may also take a hit. People who are the recipients of guilt trips may “spread the word” to others that your tactic to get things done is by use of the guild trip.
In time guilt trips will stop working completely. Once that happens it will be close to impossible to get anyone to be motivated to work for you.
Alternatives to guilt trips.
Instead of falling back on using guilt trips to get work done, try these strategies instead:
- Use manners when you ask for help. A little please and thank you go a far way in getting others to do work for you or to help you out.
- Explain the reason for your request – If people understand why you are asking them to do something, they will be more likely not only to help you, but they might give it more effort.
- Answer their WIIFM (What Is In It For Me) – Sometimes people need a reason that explains what they will get out of it if they perform a task.
- Never ask anyone to do something for you that you wouldn’t be willing to do for them – if possible, never ask for more than you would be willing to do for others.
- Show appreciation when the job is done – If you are grateful when someone helps you out, they will be more likely to be there when you need them in the future.
- Give as much or more help than you receive – do not be the person who is always asking for help but never returning it to others. Make sure for every on person who helps you, you help at least tw0 others.
- Perform random acts of kindness – If you create a reputation of giving and being kind to others, then other people will want to help you when you need it.